Matthew 5:43-48
43 Ye have hear that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. 44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; 45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. 46 For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same? 47 And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so? 48 Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.
When people hurt us, we have a choice to make. We can either stay bogged down in the pain they’ve caused us or we can give them to God and move on.
That sounds simple. But I know from personal experience it’s anything but.
There is good news, though. If you’ve accepted Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, you have Him on your side. He will help you do things you can’t do. I don’t know about you, but I’m glad God offers us His grace and mercy. It means we can forgive people who hurt us and move on.
God says we can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth us (see Philippians 4:13).
With that in mind, what are some things we can do to bless our enemies, heal from the pain they’ve caused us, and become who God wants us to be?
1). Pray
Our first response when someone hurts us should be to pray, both for ourselves and for them. Prayer is the only way to talk to God, and we need to talk to Him on a daily basis, not only when crises arise, but also during the good times in our lives. It’s especially important to pray when someone hurts us because it helps us keep things in perspective. When we’re hurting, it’s easy to fly off the handle, and say and do all sorts of things we might later regret. Prayer is the only way to receive the help we need from God in order to do the things He wants us to do. Our obedience in prayer opens up the door for Him to heal us and to work in our situation. He might heal our relationship with the person who has hurt us or He’ll give us the grace to move on from them. Praying for the other person opens up the door for Him to work in their lives, too, and to bring about any changes in them that need to be made. We can’t heal or have any peace unless we pray for God’s supernatural strength to infuse us and help us. If we sincerely ask for His help, He will help us.
2). Read, study, and meditate on God’s Word.
The only way to know God’s will about any given subject is to know His Word. He clearly reveals His mind and heart in the Bible, and it’s our responsibility to know the Bible as much as possible.
I realize it can be difficult at times to know exactly what God is trying to say to us through His Word. There’s much I don’t know about the Bible and I don’t believe any of us will fully understand it while we’re on this side of Heaven. But an honest effort and a sincere willingness to learn will reap great dividends in our lives.
God says in Isaiah 26:3, “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.”
This means if we do our best to keep God first in our lives, we’ll be able to live in much greater peace than if we never gave a thought to Him. Trusting Him with our lives and keeping our minds centered on Him is a prerequisite to us having the peace we desire.
When people hurt us, we need to do our best to keep our minds on Him and on His good plan for us, not on the things people do to us. As hard as it may be, we need to trust Him with our lives and remember the pain we’re going through is part of His plan for us, to bring about the good He has in mind for us (see Jeremiah 29:11 and Romans 8:28). I personally believe the only way we can do this successfully is to fill our minds with the Word of God on a daily basis.
We should read some portion of the Bible everyday, even if it’s only a small one. Reading some portion of the Bible is better than not reading any of it at all. We should also have a regular plan for studying and meditating on it. Going beyond our daily Bible reading to include study and meditation unearths the riches in it we might miss if we simply read it and do nothing more. Again, we don’t have to study or meditate on huge portions of it at a time. In fact, it’s better to start out small and grow in our plan of study than to start out with a lot and not follow through with it. Consistency is more important than volume, quality more than quantity.
If we eat our meals fast and don’t take the time to properly chew our food, we won’t get the nutritional value from it we’re suppose to. It’s the same thing concerning Bible reading and study. We will enjoy it much more and get more out of it if we work at our own pace and really give ourselves to what we’re doing.
Another great thing to do is memorize portions of the Bible, particularly those verses that speak to our situation. If we hide God’s Word in our hearts, we’ll be able to know the peace He promises us.
We must renew our minds according to the truth of God’s Word, so we can think how He wants us to think and do what He wants us to do (see Romans 12:2). There’s no way we’ll ever walk in victory in our lives if we don’t keep our minds centered on God and His Word. Many people want victory in their lives, but they don’t want to do anything to help bring it to pass. There’s some things in life only God can do and there’s other things only we can do. God will help us do the things we need to do, but we have to do our part in the process. If we never lend ourselves to the reading and study of His Word, we’ll never learn it or have what He wants us to have.
If we don’t know the Bible, we won’t know what He wants us to do in life, especially during times of trial. We’ll rely upon our own understanding of things and He says that’s never a good idea (see Proverbs 3:5-7). We need Him and the light of His Word to guide us in all situations, especially during the storms of life. The time to begin learning it is when things are smooth sailing, so when the going gets rough, we’ll know what to do.
God’s Word gives us something positive to think about when we’re hurting and keeps us in close fellowship with Him. The devil loves to attack us when we’re hurting, telling us all sorts of lies so we lose our hope and think God’s abandoned us. If we know God’s Word, we’ll be able to resist the devil at his onset and prevent him from getting a foothold in our minds (see 1 Peter 5:8-9 and James 4:7).
When Jesus was attacked by the devil, He quoted the Bible out loud back to him (see Luke 4:1-13). He didn’t just passively sit and let the devil have his way with Him. He was aggressive and He used the Word of God to fight back at him. Maybe we should do the same thing. If we know the Bible and really apply it to our way of thinking, we’ll have a much easier time keeping our minds on God and on His good plan for us. Then when bad things happen and the devil comes to deceive us, we’ll be able to resist him. If we stay close to God and resist the devil, we’ll be able to heal and walk in victory. The victory God desires for us.